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Welcome to AbileneLoving.com! Abilene Loving is an advice columnist and reviewer. Her fantasy house, above, is the place where no problem is too big to solve, no issue too small to discuss, no person too old to get enjoyment out of life. Abilene herself is 63. She spent most of her life as a journalist, and she credits the school of hard knocks for her best education. To read or submit advice columns, click either the Advice or Ask categories on the right. To read or submit book, movie or "anything goes" reviews or comments, click the Reviews category. To join the book club, click Reviews category, then Books.

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Dear Abilene


Clarity that saves you money

My daughter is getting married. There is a dinner reception with drinks. There will be an after-party, where we will hob-nob to several locations. This after-party is a cash-bar event. My daughter and her fiance' disagree with me that the cash-bar portion of the evening be clearly stated. HELP


When life deals a bad hand

I'm going through a tough time now. I filed for bankruptcy. I am bipolar. I can't relax. I'm not doing my best. My doctor put me on cholesterol medication, and it really upsets my stomach. My mother is in a care facility. I am working and have my own place. People say I'm too hard on myself.


Child-protection app

I'm so surprised with all the technology out there that there is no app for an alarm to warn drivers if they forget a child in a car. They have phones and radios hooked right into the car. Why can't there be something that will warn you when you open the door that there is pressure on a car seat? It is so sad to see all these children die because the parents or guardians forget they have a baby or child in the back. I have a 9-year-old girl, and I never forgot I had her with me. I don't understand how people could forget their child in the hot car on a very hot day. Have you heard of an idea like this yet?

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Loving Book Club I — Richard Ford’s ‘Canada’

Let the reading begin!

We’ll start with reality fiction, of which Richard Ford  is a master.  His new book is Canada, available in hard cover and on e-books.  Ford chronicles a robbery, a suicide, the disintegration of a family, two murders — all measure by measure.  If you ever asked the question, “How did they ever live through that?” you will know.  They just kept taking one step at a time, eating when possible, staying away from goons, knowing when to accept help, noticing things carefully, thinking as little as possible.

Another Ford book, The Sportswriter, is the


‘He’s Wearing a Moose Hat!’

Rescue Me, He’s Wearing a Moose Hat

   And  40 Other Dates After 50

By Sherry Halperin

Seal Press, 2005


For single  women over 50, this book is a must read. Halperin was widowed in her early 50s.  When she recovered her equilibrium, she accepted blind dates from friends and subscribed to a number of Personals services. Her adventures through her many misfires are hilarious.

For example, “Jerry” started off the relationship by talking a little dirty on the telephone. It was a turnoff  but also fascinating. Halperin decided to meet him for coffee. He said he’d be wearing


One Nasty Wrinkle at a Time

By Abilene

What is aging? It’s getting older, one nasty, little wrinkle at a time. It’s getting spider veins and arthritis and fibromyalgia and high blood pressure. It’s not being able to eat hot Mexican food followed by a quart of chocolate ice dream.  It’s giving up smoking and hard alcohol and red meat and long hikes.

Aging is being asked to leave your company after 36 years, because the company needs to downsize. Aging means not being able to find another job because experience doesn’t count.

Aging really means you have more wisdom and experience, commit fewer crimes, get

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